My youngest brother died with cancer on Friday 22nd August pm.
My Mother died when I was 11 in 1957 shortly after having given birth to him.
I, being an agnostic, cannot believe that there is an afterlife although it is a grand idea.
Why is it that I cannot believe in any sort of an afterlife after death but only believe in oblivion through death?
Please do not insult me with religious messages about living, and an afterlife beyond death.
I probably don't expect an answer to it all as there is no definate answer.
My brother's name was Peter and I will not forget him.
Sorry, I had to inform you of my grief.
Xcotty
Allan, we have no answers pal.
There is no way of knowing what happens, after we lose our loved ones.
I don't believe it's over completely.
I don't believe in any religion whatsoever.
The only reason, I say, I don't think this is it, is from an experience I had.
I was gone, and was taken back.
For the short time I was gone, I was somewhere else.
No tunnels, no bright lights, just somewhere else.
I could see the medical team working on me, then I was back.
I won't go into any detail, as it's a personal thing.
But as for proof, I have no way to prove this happened.
But it did.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
Zaf
I'm really so sorry to hear about your brother Allan and you really have no need to be sorry to want to express your grief, its a natural thing to feel after the loss of someone close.
I'm sure at times of death we question the possibility of an afterlife more than we would in day to day life but I really dont think any of us know the definite answer.
Guest
Sorry to hear that Alan! All sympathies to you and yours!
Regardless of religion, it seems impossible that we do not move on. I know the chemical make up of our bodies, the physiological arguments, but we have emotion, love, hate, laughter, sadness, etc, and I can't see that being 'snuffed out'. I am who I am, you are who you are, and there are massive differences. So the scientific answer cannot explain this!
BoB
That is some question Allan.
Shame about your brother.
I will find out when my time comes!
I can tell you though that two people I know who almost died, or did die and came back said that they were somewhere else when they had died, all be it briefly.
No light or tunnels, they were just somewhere else.
They can't fully explain this, but to say they were somewhere else and not alone.
I don't disbelieve them as I can't prove anything one way or the other.
It is a hard thing to understand and I have no answers.
I have always thought that when you die you die and that's it.
But now I wonder, I don't believe all that religious mumbo jumbo either!
Perisphere
Xcotty-Toast wrote:
I was gone, and was taken back.
For the short time I was gone, I was somewhere else.
No tunnels, no bright lights, just somewhere else.
I could see the medical team working on me, then I was back.
My mum and I were both extremely ill on Christmas Day 1977. Nevertheless, she still did her best to cook and make all other preparations the same as any other year, of her own volition.
She told me of the experience she had in the loo that morning. After she got done what she had to do, she felt herself fall down to the floor (she passed out, I think). The next thing she knew, she was looking down at herself on the floor, from the vantage point of an upper corner of the room, seeing herself lying there. And the next thing after that, she just as suddenly found herself back on the floor, in her body again.
From what I understand, only the body dies, the soul cannot. (And not because my mum told me that long ago!) I'm not the only person who's felt the spirits of departed loved ones make contact from the other side. And I'm not especially religious myself, despite having lived all my life so far in a country known for it's sometimes heavy-handed (cultural) religiosity.
Allan, I'm most sorry to hear of the loss of your brother. And no need to apologise for mentioning your loss here! RIP Peter.
maria143
I am sorry for your loss Alan...I don't know about after life...but you loved your brother and your memories will keep him alive in you...
trickybizz
Re: Life after death?
AllanP wrote:
My youngest brother died with cancer on Friday 22nd August pm.
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so sorry to hear of your loss Allan..hugs..I would like to think that people who have suffered illness as your brother has, are now in a much happier, peaceful place.. hugs..
Summer_08
Not going to offer you any religious rubbish Allan, I'm just really sorry for your loss xxx
I don't know what to believe when it comes to life after death - I want to believe in something, but just for my own piece of mind, so I don't fear death.
Cailean
Sorry, Alan. I can only agree with Woody - there's so much energy in us. energy can't be destroyed. I don't know the answer and I'm not in a hurry to find out
BoB
Cailean wrote:
I don't know the answer and I'm not in a hurry to find out
Tooooooo right!
sissy
Sorry for your loss Alan.
Mad Welshie
Re: Life after death?
AllanP wrote:
My youngest brother died with cancer on Friday 22nd August pm.
My Mother died when I was 11 in 1957 shortly after having given birth to him.
I, being an agnostic, cannot believe that there is an afterlife although it is a grand idea.
Why is it that I cannot believe in any sort of an afterlife after death but only believe in oblivion through death?
Please do not insult me with religious messages about living, and an afterlife beyond death.
I probably don't expect an answer to it all as there is no definate answer.
My brother's name was Peter and I will not forget him.
Sorry, I had to inform you of my grief.
I am so sorry to have heard of your grief. I hope you will in time b able to come to terms with your loss. Believe me I am still trying to get over the loss of my OH Peter, The best friend anyone could ask for. Its been 4 months since he died and I am still finding it hard. My 8 yr old daughter is hiding her feelings, my 6 year old son is so angry. I am angry that he left me in Holland to fight. I cannot change the suituation just be grateful that I was here for him and I plan on staying here for my kids. Over time we will both see a light in our darkned lives. I wish with all my heart the very best for you and your family. I am here if you need to PM me. Take care and sorry
Lady of Kincavel
So sorry my friend. I well understand your pain. I don't know whether those who believe in life after death do so because it brings them comfort, all I believe is that we will all get the answer to the big question when our own time comes. Sorry I am unable to tell you what you I think really want to know.
All I know is that what we call the soul, is energy and that energy is hard to destroy.
AllanP
Many thanks to all of you who sent their condolences, it is very much appreciated.
Guest
Alan I choked on a fish bone once...had the most warm and comfortable experience I have ever known...then my wife battered my back and brought me round. "You weren't breathing" she said. "I know, and it was beautiful!"
If that's passing on, then I'll go happy!
Lord Blackadder
I have died twice on the operating table and come back. I did not experience an out-of-the body experience. But my father said he did after his second heart attack.
I was born and raised Catholic, but have had NO religion as such since I was sixteen and learned to think for myself. I do not believe in religious claptrap.
But life after death?? And what is a soul?
I don't know ... but thousands of years ago some very wise people worked out that our bodies are driven by something we call energy today. And energy according to the Laws of Physics, cannot be annihilated. It can change ... but not be destroyed. That is a fact of our Reality. So what does the energy that powers the gross body turn into? Where does it go?
According to the likes of Madame Blavatsky and good old Aleister Crowley ... this energy ... or spirit ... or soul ... enters the Akashic Records, where all memories are pooled and fed into the Universal Mind ... or Creative Urge that we call God.
I still don't know ... but wiser minds than mine have not worked it out either.
And that, according to the Ancient philosophers of Greece, is the greatest joke the Gods ever played on Man.
Will I see my late parents ... or my youngest brother who died so tragically many years ago in my arms? I hope so. In some form that I recognise. And I do believe my energy will enter this reality again and take on a body ... but I won't remember this life ... and that's a good thing. Who'd want all that baggage with its foibles and idiosyncracies on the next leg of the journey?
Of course you have to ask, where did my energy come from in the first place? Was it always here? Will it always be here?
We'll never know those answers on this side of mortality ... and that's another good thing. Why suck out all the wonders of our glorious Universe? Some things should never be explained ... just wondered about and when my time does come ... accepted in the knowledge that there is an almost immortal part of me that is going somewhere! And that's quite an alluring thought ...
Guest
And that is a very moving and enlightening statement....
AllanP
woodysdad wrote:
And that is a very moving and enlightening statement....
Very true! So we must all make the best of our short lives and be thankful for the privilege of being here now.
Too many squander that chance.
Sidsnotwasere
I've often wondered about this sort of thing.
I recall reading about a young 4 year old French lad,went on holiday to Egypt with his mum and dad,had never been to Egypt before,yet he was able to name streets even before turning into the next one.
His parents to him to a place where old street maps were located in that town they were in,
The locals were amazed by the lad,he then identified things that happened over 200 years before.
Me,i was in a place called Ballyjamesduff,N.I. when i was 8,was out one evening to the local cinema,went to make my way home,took the wrong turn,yet i knew every nook and cranny,wasnt in the least bit scared,and found my way back to where we were staying,on the outskirts of the village.
Baffling,you bet it was.
You may be interested in this place,other people's experiences.
I dont mean to be rude
but where do you think my OH is right now? Today is our 8th Wedding Anniversary.
WACOlives
I think he's in your mind with you mwl.That's why you remember and cherish the day....you're doing it together.
Might sound a bit daft but thats my thoughts. Don't go with the 'something after death ' theories.
Just look, as he would now, to Xmas for the bairns.
CHIN UP LASS.
irritateddata
My younger sister (43 yrs) died two years ago, shortly after I found this bookmark in an old book:
What is Dying?
A ship sails and I stand watching
till she fades on the horizon
and someone at my side says,
'she is gone'.
Gone where?
Gone from my sight, that is all;
she is just as large as when
I saw her.
The diminished size and total loss of
sight is in me, not in her,
and just at that moment
when someone at my side says,
'She is gone',
there are others who
are watching her coming
and other voices take up
a glad shout,
'There she comes!'
and that is dying.
It made me feel better for her. Hope it helps alittle with you, I know it's a later post but I know grief takes time and comes in waves.
Xcotty
I think that is a very inspiring verse Data.
Thank you for posting it, I've never read it before.